My biological clock is ticking, and sometimes it ticks so rapidly that I think I am running out of time. Let me put it more plainly than saying, "My biological clock is ticking," because I am human and I come closer to death everyday. What I really mean is that I want a family. I want a husband and I want kids; one kid would be nice but two would be better.
I know it is not common for gay men to want kids. Some would argue, "Isn't that the point of sleeping with men, to negate the possibility of kids?" I suppose for some gay men, not having kids is indeed one of the perks of being gay.
However, for me, a family and being a devoted husband and a devoted father to my kids has always been important to me. In fact, I have been picking out names for my kids for years. (The current names I have picked out are Holden Alexander and Cadence Elisabeth.) I know, "How gay can I be?" But the heart wants what the heart wants. I have always known that I wanted to be a father. I just wish everything else in my life was so certain and necessary.
I want a husband to help raise our progeny. We could do surrogacy or adopt. I would love to see a little me running around and a little one who looks like my husband, whomever he will be. But, I also know that there are plenty of children in the world who need a loving home to go to when this world is cruel to them and they need someone who loves them to tell them they are loved and everything will be okay.
This is my dream that I dream and I know that it is possible. However, until I meet my future husband and we have a home to provide for children, I will continue to remain a dreamer and my biological clock will continue to tick away. Tick, tick, tick.
I know it is not common for gay men to want kids. Some would argue, "Isn't that the point of sleeping with men, to negate the possibility of kids?" I suppose for some gay men, not having kids is indeed one of the perks of being gay.
However, for me, a family and being a devoted husband and a devoted father to my kids has always been important to me. In fact, I have been picking out names for my kids for years. (The current names I have picked out are Holden Alexander and Cadence Elisabeth.) I know, "How gay can I be?" But the heart wants what the heart wants. I have always known that I wanted to be a father. I just wish everything else in my life was so certain and necessary.
I want a husband to help raise our progeny. We could do surrogacy or adopt. I would love to see a little me running around and a little one who looks like my husband, whomever he will be. But, I also know that there are plenty of children in the world who need a loving home to go to when this world is cruel to them and they need someone who loves them to tell them they are loved and everything will be okay.
This is my dream that I dream and I know that it is possible. However, until I meet my future husband and we have a home to provide for children, I will continue to remain a dreamer and my biological clock will continue to tick away. Tick, tick, tick.
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