Today has been one of those days where I constantly question my worth in this world and one of the times I struggle, with all my being, not to be sucked down into the depths of despair and self-doubt. I don't want to go into depth as to why my day was so crappy because I don't want to be pitied or be empathized with anymore than I already have been. Besides, rehashing what happened doesn't change the fact that it happened and dwelling on the defeat only allows me to maintain myself in the bubble of negativity. Dwelling on what I have no control over doesn't do me any good.
What my issues, today, have done for me have forced me to think of ways to overcome these moments of crushed hope. So, I have come up with five rules to follow. These five rules, or steps, must be followed before I can allow myself to feed the fires of self-doubt and despair. If you follow the rules, self-doubt and despair will have no kindling to ignite their fires.
Rule number one is laugh, or find enjoyment in the simple things. If you can't come up with the strength to laugh, then smile. The positive energy infused in a laugh or a smile can diminish or negate the sting of disappointment and the negativity of stress. A smile or a laugh can be the medicine to cure the aches of life. So, laugh and smile.
Rule number two is to remember to breathe. Breathe in the positive energy that surrounds you in the hum of life and exhale all the negativity. Release the negativity into the universe and let it be changed to positive for the benefit of all. Sometimes when we are stressed, in pain, or any other aspect of negative inducting activity, we tend to take short, quick, shallow breaths. This type of breathing is not beneficial and can keep necessary oxygen from reaching the brain and keeps the brain from functioning to its potential. Short, shallow breaths deprive the body from its necessary oxygen and, in turn, takes away from "clear-headed" thinking. Take deep breaths and allow your mind to calm and clear itself of the negative emotions. Breath deep and seek peace.
Rule number three is, when you have achieved the level of clear-headed thought, think of how full of self-worth and potential you have within you. We are each filled with worth and purpose. Some of us see the measure of worth and purpose as the amount of money and notoriety we attain in this life. We see others succeed and base our own self-worth on those measures of success. However, if we allow ourselves to think of how much self-worth and purpose we have, we can rise above the negative measures of worth of money and fame. We can see what we have achieved and we can realize how much more we are capable of achieving. Some may see those achievements as mediocre, but your achievements make you exceptional. Know your worth and allow that to keep you going.
Rule number four is to know that someone loves you with all their hearts. Whether it be family, friend, or deity, someone loves you and keeps you in their deepest regard. It is easy to feel so alone when all you seem to find is pain, suffering, and defeat. However, when you know that someone loves you, you can know that you are not alone. Call your parents and siblings; call or text your friends; or kneel down and pray so that you can turn to the ones who love you and feel that connection. The negative feelings associated with loneliness will dissipate and the warm embrace of a loved one, in person or on the phone, will positively affect you and how you are thinking about yourself. Know that someone, somewhere loves you.
Finally, rule number five is to love with great depth and with all your being. When we suffer pain, stress, disappointment, etc., we reach a very self-concerned and introspective way of thinking; it becomes a self-centered way of thinking. However, when we stop focusing on ourselves and start giving focus to others, we aren't stuck thinking negatively about ourselves, but we find our concern and focus shift to the well-being of someone else. Negative energies of self-centered and self-pitying behavior and thought shifts to the positive concern for someone else and love and care given to them. See beyond yourself and love and care for someone else.
If you can follow these rules or steps for overcoming negative actions and emotions, you will find yourself in a more happy and peace-centered state of mind. I am not saying it will be easy and won't always be the solution you are looking for, but I can say that it has been helping me to pull myself out of depression and despair. I will say that if you can replace the negative energies, behaviors, emotions, and thoughts with the positive, you will find happiness when all you thought you'd see was sadness and pain. So, laugh (or smile), breathe, think, know, and love. Let positive energy and happiness surround you. Namaste.
What my issues, today, have done for me have forced me to think of ways to overcome these moments of crushed hope. So, I have come up with five rules to follow. These five rules, or steps, must be followed before I can allow myself to feed the fires of self-doubt and despair. If you follow the rules, self-doubt and despair will have no kindling to ignite their fires.
Rule number one is laugh, or find enjoyment in the simple things. If you can't come up with the strength to laugh, then smile. The positive energy infused in a laugh or a smile can diminish or negate the sting of disappointment and the negativity of stress. A smile or a laugh can be the medicine to cure the aches of life. So, laugh and smile.
Rule number two is to remember to breathe. Breathe in the positive energy that surrounds you in the hum of life and exhale all the negativity. Release the negativity into the universe and let it be changed to positive for the benefit of all. Sometimes when we are stressed, in pain, or any other aspect of negative inducting activity, we tend to take short, quick, shallow breaths. This type of breathing is not beneficial and can keep necessary oxygen from reaching the brain and keeps the brain from functioning to its potential. Short, shallow breaths deprive the body from its necessary oxygen and, in turn, takes away from "clear-headed" thinking. Take deep breaths and allow your mind to calm and clear itself of the negative emotions. Breath deep and seek peace.
Rule number three is, when you have achieved the level of clear-headed thought, think of how full of self-worth and potential you have within you. We are each filled with worth and purpose. Some of us see the measure of worth and purpose as the amount of money and notoriety we attain in this life. We see others succeed and base our own self-worth on those measures of success. However, if we allow ourselves to think of how much self-worth and purpose we have, we can rise above the negative measures of worth of money and fame. We can see what we have achieved and we can realize how much more we are capable of achieving. Some may see those achievements as mediocre, but your achievements make you exceptional. Know your worth and allow that to keep you going.
Rule number four is to know that someone loves you with all their hearts. Whether it be family, friend, or deity, someone loves you and keeps you in their deepest regard. It is easy to feel so alone when all you seem to find is pain, suffering, and defeat. However, when you know that someone loves you, you can know that you are not alone. Call your parents and siblings; call or text your friends; or kneel down and pray so that you can turn to the ones who love you and feel that connection. The negative feelings associated with loneliness will dissipate and the warm embrace of a loved one, in person or on the phone, will positively affect you and how you are thinking about yourself. Know that someone, somewhere loves you.
Finally, rule number five is to love with great depth and with all your being. When we suffer pain, stress, disappointment, etc., we reach a very self-concerned and introspective way of thinking; it becomes a self-centered way of thinking. However, when we stop focusing on ourselves and start giving focus to others, we aren't stuck thinking negatively about ourselves, but we find our concern and focus shift to the well-being of someone else. Negative energies of self-centered and self-pitying behavior and thought shifts to the positive concern for someone else and love and care given to them. See beyond yourself and love and care for someone else.
If you can follow these rules or steps for overcoming negative actions and emotions, you will find yourself in a more happy and peace-centered state of mind. I am not saying it will be easy and won't always be the solution you are looking for, but I can say that it has been helping me to pull myself out of depression and despair. I will say that if you can replace the negative energies, behaviors, emotions, and thoughts with the positive, you will find happiness when all you thought you'd see was sadness and pain. So, laugh (or smile), breathe, think, know, and love. Let positive energy and happiness surround you. Namaste.
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